“Stay Home — It’ll Be Easier.” My Parents Celebrated My Twin’s 25th Birthday And Left Me Out

I had spent years trying to smooth my own edges down. Trying to be easier, quieter, less of a problem. I had mistaken accommodation for love and had tried to earn love by making myself more accommodating, not understanding that the question was not whether I was easy enough. The question was whether I was wanted at all.

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